It is only when we can be sufficiently intimate with ourselves that we can be comfortable both alone and with others.
Whereas the common definition of “solitude” is the state of being alone, solitude (in contrast to loneliness) paradoxically implies the subjective presence of the other. From this perspective, loneliness can be thought of as a failed experience of solitude.
From INQUIRING DEEPLY, Reflections on Connection (ch.6)
Some Reflections on Cultivating Subjectivity
Some Reflections on Drumming as Awareness Practice
Announcing the publication of INQUIRING DEEPLY: PROBLEMS AS A PATH TO AWARENESS
On The Felt Sense of Emergent Meaning
Inquiring Deeply About Transformative Conversation
If There Is No Self, How Can I Actualize it?
What Is Life For? Some Reflections on Purpose
Inquiring Deeply About The Mind’s Eye
Inquiring Deeply About Friendship
The Hunger For Deep Conversation
Inquiring Deeply About Core Negative Beliefs
Making Sense of Spiritual Beliefs, Part I
Making Sense of Spiritual Beliefs, Part II
Wise Relationship Part IV: Irreconcilable Differences
Resolving Entanglements With Inquiry
Wise Relationship Part II: Entanglements–Who Is Doing What To Whom?
Wise Relationship (Part I): Ninth Step on the Eightfold Noble Path
Some Reflections On Pace of Life
On The Importance of Being Understood
The Dysfunctional American Psyche in the Era of Trump
Reflections on Introversion & Social Distancing in the Time of COVID
Some Reflections on Existential Shock
The Human Condition: Freeing The Spirit From Its Cell
Reflections On The Need To Be In Control
Reflections on Relationship As Dharma Practice
Relational Mindfulness and Relational Inquiry
The Relational Dimension of Emotional Experience
Inquiring Deeply About How We Change
Intention: The Leading Edge of Change
The Unfolding of Wisdom: Going With The Flow
Inquiring Deeply About Self-Reflection
Inquiring Deeply About Emptiness
To Think Or Not To Think: That Is Not The Question